OK, This Shadi.com thing is off my back now for time being. But hell, it had made me think a lot about this Shadi thing of late. Every time I think of it,comes a voice YOU ARE NOT READY FOR IT. Yes, why should I marry just because I am at 'right age'. Let's not talk about the 'right age', as we all know it varies from person to person. You might be ready at 18 and you might not be at 37! No wonder Celebs marry so late! Waise jab ghar me doodh aa raha hai toh gaaye paalne ki kya zaroorat?
I met a 22-year-old student at Gym who got married at 18! She lives with her husband and his parents in US. She was just 17, when she got to know that she will be married off. I asked her how did she convince herself for marriage at 17. She said that she had no ambition and always wanted to be with that 'some one' special ( it was an arranged marriage). And also she liked the idea of being married and wearing bridal clothes.
She is continuing with her studies and says that she is really happy!
And I also met this 30 year woman who got married at 29 and she told me that marriage is the worst thing ever happened to her. And no, her husband is not a wife beater. She just misses her single days. Although she claims that she still hangs around with friends and does whatever she want to, still the feeling that she is not alone bothers her.
I totally agree that at some point of time you need someone. But when does that point come? Has age got anything to do with that?
when you are okay with the thought of sharing a toilet seat with a man ( and much more )... you are ready for marriage!
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lol @ doodh aa raha hai
ReplyDeleteOye, ye tu hai na?
ReplyDeleteya khuda gar joint family me shadi hui toh?
There is no right age.. I believe...and everyone does panic, even for just 1 sec, , whatever be their age, when he/she thinks about getting married and getting settled, because there are so so many uncertainties attached, specially in arranged marriages. Some of my colleagues and friends, who got married at 22/23 are happy (I hope so) and a few who, at 28, 29 are still confused about getting settled and getting all sweaty. I hope, you take your best, informed decision. Good Luck :)
ReplyDeleteKunal
Dhoodh aa raha hai LOL hadh hai tu...kya kya dialogue laati hai ....
ReplyDeleteI to can never be ready for marriage i know...
I can be for moments bus :P
Or maybe luckily if I meet someone who i think i can spend life with...which happens in movies only
Hi kunnu, thanks for the lovely comment, I totally agree, there is no right age for marriage!
ReplyDelete@ SG, haye ye movies ne toh tabah kar diya hai
Hey.. take it easy..!! I guess you are freaking out..!!
ReplyDeleteMarriage isn't about the right age.. its about the right time.. whenever you feel like getting married than go ahead and marry..
BTW... what exactly did the line "jab ghar mein dodh aa hi raha hai toh..." mean... ;)
@Madulika
ReplyDeleteYou know Cow rearing is a hectic job. Cleaning, fodder and all. It's so easy to get Saras Milk, hai na??? So it means why would u rear a cow when you have Saras dairy near your place?????
These stars get easy fuck/ live in and what not, why would they marry???
hehehe.. got the meaning sweety ;)
ReplyDeleteit happens on its own, when the time comes
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well... i think sooner or later one has to marry... depends on ones priorities i think..some people want to have a married life..others want a career...some love being single...others want kids and spouse... so varies from person to person :) of course the married persons can have a better idea of how it is to be married :)
ReplyDeletejoint family mein tu gai to ek aur ekta kapoor ke serial ki story ban jayegi.. jisme bahu vamp hoyegi AHAHAHHAHAHA :p kidding :p tu to heroine hai
ReplyDeletenah re, mere ko na banna heroine, saali hamesha roti rehti hai, bloody sacrificial lambs.
ReplyDeleteMein vamp hi sahi hu. Will wear sleeveless, backless and Saap, biccchu bindi on my head and say ME SABKO BARBAAD KAR DOONGI
Both you and me are in same boat, not knowing what is the right age. I guess there is no right or not right age, its just being ready and of course meeting right match
ReplyDeleteTry Jeevansathi.com also, its better
meri bala se.. I am not going to try any dot com
ReplyDeletewhen you feel that you don’t have to change yourself for that guy and he is comfortable with it
ReplyDeletewhen you feel that both of you share the same passion for the relationship
when you feel that you really need that someone to share your happiness with, all your life. Then you are ready for marriage :)
Otherwise it’s better to stay alone and enjoy your own life than to marry some wrong guy and suffer.
After all ‘Shaadi’ if at all we do, it is for ourselves not for someone else.