So, finally Mom got me registered with Shadi.com. I didn't know what to say when that executive( whatever she is called) asked me " what are your requirements". It made me laugh, it felt like she is selling me something, like you know washing machine or microwave. Not knowing what to say I just said " Someone I can live with, that's all".
After some days that executive will find me a techie, whose family will contact mine. Then I will talk to that guy on phone, if we liked each other, we will meet next. And if we didn't like other, that executive will show me next model.
I had always believed in the concept of arranged marriage and now that it is really happening I am panicking. No, I am not getting married next week, next month , not even next year but the idea of seeing model one after another is giving me goose bumps.
I am not going to feel what I felt for HIM ever. In fact, now I don't believe in love. I am marrying simply because my parents want me to and also because I want children.
I wasn't planing to fall in love with HIM, seriously I wasn't looking for it, it was an accident. And now that I am planning to meet guys, would I be able to feel even one percent of what I felt for HIM?
I am just talking about the initial stage of this marriage bakchodi( I am sorry cant help it), which is nothing but MEETING. I am not over HIM, so the question is should I meet guys after I get over HIM or is it the right time now?
PS: I am not going to marry some NRI, see this
Best wishes for Rishta process :D
ReplyDeleteLook at my post about shadi perhaps it will help you--> A Muslim Woman Can Propose To A Muslim Man
I am doing the same with my closest cousin, its been fun so far though no success. I have lots of stories to be shared soon ;)
ReplyDeleteAnd i love how the executive will find you a "techie"
haan, blog pe kuch likhne ko mil jaayega
ReplyDeletethere is nothing like "getting over some one". you ll fall in love again, trust me - it might just take some time to convince yourself. wish you all the very best :) just let yourself free, loosen up, you ll be fine.
ReplyDeletethank u sawan,
ReplyDeleteAmit, u r doing it for your cousin?
In arrange marriage initially you won't feel the love for the person you are going to marry..but it's a gradual process.. You will get so much busy in post marriage things, marital issues that eventually you will forget HIM..U may think this is impossible now..but that's what happen.
ReplyDeleteAbout love..you "may" feel or may not ...
Just one thing I would like to tell you- don't marry moma's boys ..they care more about mom than wife..and while choosing groom give importance to family members as well :).. cause I have seen girls suffering a lot after marriage because they just observe groom.
Best wishes ! :)
Prasad, I loved ur comment
ReplyDeleteWhen you are in love with someone.. he seems to be the whole world for you.. and when things doesn't work out you people have to do your separate ways.. life seems to lose its charm and you feel like running away to some deserted island....
ReplyDeletebut trust me.. one day someone else comes in your life.. he makes you believe that life is beautiful and there is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it :)
I just wish 'that someone' would be your hubby.. so all the best and keep your sprits high...
Loved your blog and you (specially the slang ba***di.. i really like bold girls).. so i am following you and hope to see you around at http://madhulikaspeaks.blogspot.com/
Happy blogging and remain connected :) :)
yes. he has registered on shadhi.com and we r scrutinizing girls for him together...
ReplyDeleteMadhulika, you are a sweetheart !
ReplyDelete@Amit good for him
we talked about it ;) blog pe kuch aur masala aa jayega! yayyyy
ReplyDeleteya deepti blog pe maarenge ladko ki yayyyyyyyyyyyyyy
ReplyDeleteWhere you are headed is much more important that what you left behind. :) I went through something similar..thought I would never get over that person..but trust me when I say everything has a replacement. :)
ReplyDeletewow, I hope somebody feels for me what I feel for HIM
ReplyDeleteA friend told me once - 'I am not going to marrying a washing machine. Because, thats what I see a prospective groom in the sites seem like.'
ReplyDeleteIt is very important to have a humane connection, I believe. It will be very difficult to be 100% confident for a person to be your bride/groom. And hence, at least finding that connection, where you feel that he/she has a heart and how he/she feels about things around and their perspective about life and relationships is the key. But, I know, it is easier said than done. I have no experience of being on the matrimonial sites, so I would not know much of it. Good Luck :)
I have commented on the your room mates post :)
Kunal
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ReplyDeleteGosh I can never understand arrange marriages :| And Howsoever I hate I fear I might end up doing the same one day....my bro has actually suggested those shaadi.com ideas and i kill him at those times......Shaadi hogi to hogi par wo drama na baba na...I mean we r no show pieces.....and meeting a guy when u know u meeting for rishta is soooo awkward ....even if i wd have liked him otherwise....riste me to main burayee dekhogeee
ReplyDeleteI agree love thing might happen post marriage and sometimes courtship is nice too....but that period of finding the guy is :|
All the best...hope u really find the best guy without much natak :D then give me tips :P
And darling u will never be over him unless someone else enters...so give a chance :D
this nautanki will take my life. Fuck man
ReplyDeleteI know right now you think you will NEVER get over him ... but trust me one day you will ... Coz YOU are more important than any 'HIM' ... Let's see it like this .... we are all on this earth temporarily (Death and all!) ... so do you want to make the most of this life or waste it on someone who clearly doesn't even deserve it ... As for the marriage bit ... just have fun ... with the rishtas and alll .. take it as blind dates ... and you have all the right to judge them ... I always thought that was fun.
ReplyDelete*just my two cents*
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Hi, Tanvi, I totally agree , I am important then any damn HIM
ReplyDelete@Prasad... Your first Para in your comment is thoughtful and whatever you mentioned about forgetting HIM is absolutely right. But what will happen after forgetting HIM and still can’t become passionate about this new guy. Of course in the long run people get used to anything. It’s just called “Adjustment.” To become busy with something is not what we marry for. Majority of Women in India have been trying to find happiness in adjustments only. Most of them can’t even speak out what they REALLY want in life and in love.
ReplyDelete@M.S.
It’s impossible to forget your true love but of course as Prasad thoughtfully said in his first Para, It will help you forget HIM. May be the intensity gradually decreases as the time goes by. On second thoughts, finally it may also disappear in the long run.
Only a person whom you can love can actually make you forget HIM and also make your life happily ever after ! :)
(Yes of course I don’t deny that it’s easier to speak than to actually experience the situation)